Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege A guide to therapeutic work with boarding school survivors

"This book alerts psychotherapists to the hidden emotional trauma of boarding school. Case histories show how deceptive appearances can be. Many boarding children grow up with chronic anxiety, despite leading busy, conscientious, adult lives; they struggle with close relationships having learnt to dissociate and to project disowned feelings onto others. A helpful addition to a growing literature on this peculiar aspect of British life." - Sue Gerhardt, author of Why Love Matters and The Selfish Society

"British independent boarding schools are frequently seen as the envy of the world. This provocative book - based on twenty-five years of therapeutic practice - suggests that far from being models of excellence, they are the source of psychological distress which mars the lives even of those who appear to be their most successful products. Passionate engagement, exceptional clinical experience and case studies which portray the anguish of the human soul make this an impressive book which should be required reading for therapists, educationists and politicians. It may also prove a life-saver for many boarding school 'survivors'." - Brian Thorne, Emeritus Professor of Counselling, University of East Anglia, Co-founder, the Norwich Centre for Personal, Professional and Spiritual Development

"Informed by a wealth of experience Bassett and Duffell have created a valuable and timely resource for therapists and counsellors.Vivid examples from workshops and testimony from boarding school survivors build a convincing picture of the 'strategic survival personality'. Informed by theory the book is accessible and practical; it offers suggestions on technique, including exercises and questions for practitioners. It will equip the professional reader to identify and work with this client group and offers significant insights for ex-boarders. This is an excellent and lively contribution to the growing literature in this field." - Professor Joy Schaverien PhD, Jungian Psychoanalyst and author of Boarding School Syndrome: The Psychological Trauma of the Privileged Child'

"Basset and Duffell have written a helpful, lucid and controversial book that sets out the fruits of 30 years work with this newly recognised and challenging client group. Using real life case studies they show how a, so-called, 'privileged' education, based in a style of 'attachment breaking institutionalisation with its roots in Victorian hyper- masculinity', has a cost for individuals and society as a whole. The case studies show how painstaking psychotherapy can offer a route to helping these clients reclaim their humanity. This is a follow up to nick's groundbreaking 'The Making of Them' - which stripped the veil from the culturally acceptable face ofpublic school education." - Adam Jukes