Creating Connection A Relational-Cultural Approach with Couples

"Relational-Cultural Theory alerts us to the power of connection in people's lives and also the impediments to closeness. This book will be of great value to therapists working with couples whose relationships cross culturally monitored boundaries. In describing ways of moving through impasse, it illuminates the power of love to upset a patriarchal order." - Carol Gilligan, Author of In a Different Voice and The Birth of Pleasure "Creating Connection is perhaps the most meaningful, deep, and yet pragmatic compendium on couples' experience and couples therapy to be published in the last fifty years. It brings renewed hope for our patients in painful and disconnected relationships, helping to achieve true understanding and regain genuine meaning-the power of connection-in their lives. If you read one book on couples treatment this year, Creating Connection must be that one." - William S Pollack, Ph.D., ABPP, Associate Clinical Professor, Department of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School; Author of Real Boys and Real Boys' Voices "Judith Jordan and Jon Carlson's new book, Creating Connection, deepens the application of the profound Relational-Cultural Theory to couples. The essays in this impressive collection move the therapy paradigm further towards the cutting edge of a relational lens. Since the relational is foundational, and this perspective is the future of therapy, we recommend this book as an essential read for all therapists." - Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen Lakelly Hunt, Ph.D., Co-Authors of Making Marriage Simple and Receiving Love "Creating Connection is a landmark volume in the field of therapy for committed couples. Its skillful integration of feminist awareness of our multiple and intersecting identities and their effects on intimacy with an emphasis on connection and empathy in relationship offers a refreshing perspective on how to think about intimate relationships caught in struggle. It's accessible, not only for therapists who wish to think differently about how to work with couples, but also for couples themselves looking for a new paradigm for deepening and strengthening connection. This is a book I'll use in my practice, and also in my life." - Laura S. Brown, Ph.D. ABPP, Director, Fremont Community Therapy Project, Seattle WA and Author of Your Turn for Care: Surviving the Aging and Death of the Adults Who Harmed You "This exciting volume brings the vital perspective of Relational Cultural Therapy to a diverse range of couples, focusing on ways to intervene therapeutically to overcome disconnections and foster positive relationship. The distinguished authors fill a major gap in knowledge: No previous volume has so specifically and clearly addressed the experiences of marginalized couples, examined how social inequality affects intimate couple interactions, and detailed ways to repair and rebalance destructive inequities and interactions. This book will serve as a touchstone for all future work with couples, and is relevant not only for therapists but also for people interested in how to support loving, positive relationships." - Dana C. Jack, Author of Silencing the Self: Women and Depression, Behind the Mask: Destruction and Creativity in Women's Aggression, and Silencing the Self Across Cultures: Depression and Gender in the Social World "Relational Cultural Theory is a complete natural for couples work, and Jordan and Carlson have put together a gold mine of tips and mind-expanding reframings. Seventeen clinicians cover the theory, the tie-in with couples, the basic cultural tools, and spot-on, ready-to-use applications to class, race, gender, sexual orientation, sex, parenting, step-parenting, health and power differences and impacts-an essential compilation all couples therapists will treasure." - Christina Robb, MA, Author of This Changes Everything and Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist